Telltale Signs of a Toxic Family that You Must Not Ignore

Woman needing help with the signs of her toxic family system.

Despite popular belief, the idea of the perfect family is often a misconception. An ideal family is often thought to be full of happiness, stability, and unity. However, the reality is that there is no such thing as a perfect family. Every family has unique flaws, struggles, and imperfections that make it special.

Having a toxic family is a serious issue that should not be taken lightly. While no family is perfect, an unhealthy family environment can have a profound negative impact on its members’ physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Seasoned psychiatrists point out how critical it is to recognize the signs of a toxic family and to seek help if necessary. Below are some of these telltale signs:

One (or Both) of Your Parents Are Overly Involved in Your Life

A toxic family dynamic can have a lasting impact on a child’s mental and emotional health. One telltale sign of an unhealthy family dynamic is overly involved parents. Highly involved parents are excessively controlling, overly critical, or excessively protective of their children. 

Parents who are overly involved can interfere with their children’s autonomy and limit their children’s social development. Children may become dependent on their parents and lose the ability to make their own decisions. They may also fear failure and cannot take risks or explore their interests and skills. 

According to psychiatrists that parents need to be involved in their children’s lives, but it is equally important for children to have space to develop as individuals. When parents are too involved, it can create an environment of distrust and resentment, which can impact the child’s emotional well-being. 

A Persistent Feeling of Guilt

In a toxic family dynamic, emotional blackmail is often used by parents to manipulate their children into behaving in a certain way or to make them feel guilty for something they have done or have not done. Emotional blackmail is a psychological manipulation in which someone attempts to control another person’s behavior by making them feel guilty or ashamed. This type of manipulation is often used in families where one or both parents are emotionally or physically abusive and are trying to control their children’s behavior.

When parents use emotional blackmail, they often guilt their children into doing what they want. It can be done through threats, criticism, or withholding love or affection. They might also use guilt to manipulate their children into feeling bad or ashamed for something they have done or have not done. For example, a parent might tell their child they are to blame for something terrible that happened in their family, or they might threaten to stop loving their child if they do not do what they are told.

Emotional blackmail can have a damaging effect on children, making them feel worthless and powerless. It can also lead to guilt and shame, which can have long-term psychological consequences. In addition, it can lead to resentment and anger, which can cause further damage to the family dynamic.

Low Self-Esteem

Recent research conducted by psychiatrists has shown that toxic family dynamics can significantly impact an individual’s self-esteem. This environment can incredibly damage a person’s self-esteem and have long-term effects on their mental health.

Psychiatrists have identified that a toxic family dynamic can lead to a person feeling worthless, which can lead to low self-esteem. It can manifest in many ways, such as inadequacy, low self-confidence, and a lack of motivation. These feelings can be further compounded by the fact that the person may be unable to leave the toxic family environment for various reasons.

Conclusion

It is essential to seek professional help in a toxic family environment. Professional counseling or therapy can help identify the problem’s root causes, provide practical and emotional support, and offer strategies to cope with and improve the situation. It is also important to remember that the emotional toll of living in a toxic environment can take a long-term toll on your mental and emotional health, so seeking help sooner rather than later is essential for your well-being.

If you are looking for a reputable mental health program in Greeley, CO, contact Aspen View Mental Health. We will support and help you get your footing through this challenging time. Together, we can reverse the ill effects of a toxic family dynamic. Schedule a session now!

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We know that asking for help takes courage. Getting in touch is the first step. We’re here for you, no matter what. Once submitted, our admissions team will be in touch within 24 hours.

Or call us directly to get started: 970-717-1830

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1. Initial Assessment and Medication Evaluation

Making sure that you or your loved one are assessed for optimal care.

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We craft a treatment plan tailored to suit your individual needs.

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Our clinicians make sure that you access the medication you need.

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Megan Oliveira
Director of Business Development

Megan comes to Aspen View with over a decade of experience working in strategic development and social impact in the non-profit, NGO, and foreign aid sector. She was a film producer at MSNBC and produced documentary and docu-series projects during her time there. Megan has a passion for helping underserved communities access the mental health and recovery resources they need.  She is a graduate of the University of San Diego with a bachelor’s degree in Rhetoric and a minor in Business Administration, she also lettered in Division 1 Soccer while at USD. She was born and raised in Central California and is returning to the area after working in the Bay Area and Los Angeles for the last 20 years. She values spending time with her family and weekend trips to Shaver Lake.

Jessica Varner, LPC, LAC - Lead Therapist at Aspen View Mental Health
Jessica Varner, LPC, LAC
Therapist

Jessica L. Varner is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Licensed Addictions Counselor (LAC) with over a decade of experience in the field of mental health. She received her master’s degree in clinical counseling in 2012 from the University of Northern Colorado and became a Licensed Addictions Counselor in 2018.

Dr. Nathan Swisher - Clinical Director at Aspen View Mental Health
Dr. Nathan Swisher
Clinical Director

Nathan Swisher, PsyD is a licensed Clinical Psychologist and Certified Addiction Specialist in Colorado. He earned his Doctorate of Psychology in Clinical Psychology (2011) from Rosemead School of Psychology, Biola University, an APA-accredited program in California. At Rosemead, he was trained in psychological assessment and multiple psychotherapy models in a variety of clinical settings. Dr. Swisher returned to his home state of Colorado to complete his full-time internship in a community mental health setting. More recently, he has worked in community mental health and private practice in Greeley. Dr. Swisher is motivated to improve easy access to quality mental health services in Greeley and the surrounding areas.

Dr Matthew Tatum, Psy.D - CEO at Aspen View Mental Health
Dr. Matthew Tatum
Chief Executive Officer
Matthew Tatum, PsyD received his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Rosemead School of Psychology. Early in his career, he played a key role in helping develop two integrated behavioral health departments for Federally Qualified Health Centers in Fresno County. In 2015 he assumed the Executive Director role at First Steps Recovery. There he grew a single, six bed residential drug and alcohol treatment center into a six bed detoxification facility, 16 bed residential treatment center, partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient program, and 30 bed sober living program. Expanding services such as this is a passion and life’s work for Dr. Tatum. His goal for Aspen View Mental Health is to expand services to the entire area and be able to provide care for all those in need.